Thank you for all your beautiful comments on my previous post. I took something for my tummy and am feeling sooooo much better. I am taking it easy for the next two days (no schedules or timetables or knitting or ANYTHING – in fact I spent last night watching really mindless TV) and then I will reassess where I’m at. I did go and exercise yesterday and it was HARD but I feel somewhat more normal.
I haven’t forgotten about the follow-up to that shouting post. I’ve finished writing it and am tweaking it a bit and I will publish it tomorrow.
I just really need to talk about about a different issue quickly.
There is a person in my life who is overwhelmed by anxiety.
This person (I don’t want to say who it is but I’m sure that you can figure that out) has had an exceptionally tough year.
The person in question has recently lost a parent and is under tremendous stress in the workplace. He works A LOT of hours for a rubbish employer who literally expects 300% from his staff and wants to return the favour with 20%. No wonder he has such a VERY HIGH staff turnover.
The persons anxiety is becoming crippling and we are slowly getting to the point where he is unable to cope. There are even panic attacks being thrown in for good measure. The other day I had to make the person pull over in the traffic so I could drive. We witnessed an accident – thankfully nothing major, and he literally froze and couldn’t remember what to do.
I have talked to the person about seeing someone but he is not ready (or rather, he is not comfortable) with that. I don’t think that men are into that whole “seeing someone to talk about their feelings” business. I then asked the person to go to our GP to get booked off sick for a couple of days. I do believe that a big part of the problem is this persons levels of fatigue. I believe that he needs to be home for a few days. Just to rest and not do or think about anything else. I think that he needs a time-out of sorts. When I mentioned this to him he panicked. He told me that he cannot deal with the fallout that will inevitably take place at work if he takes off sick.
I asked the person to come and run with me at the crack of dawn on a Saturday and a Sunday morning. I told him that it would do him the world of good and that it’s a start. I told him that we don’t even have to run, we can either do brisk walking or we can do walk-run, walk-run. He is not sure. Well. Not yet. The person even struggles to make a basic decision like this.
The person keeps thinking that he is going to die any minute now. He has practically been OD’ing on Rescue which no longer seems to do anything.
The person is not that keen on medicating (his reasons for this are completely valid and I do understand them but I wish that he would at least TRY) so I am kind of at a loss as to the way forward. I know that I can convince him but ultimately he needs to make the decision and go forward with it.
I do suffer from mild anxiety as well (though I never used to get panic attacks – mostly knots-in-my-tummy stuff) so I know that it is a horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE place to be. Fortunately my AD medication manages this for me so I am very lucky to not have that anxiety be a part of my life any longer. In very extreme circumstances I may take some Rescue Remedy.
If you are someone who struggles with anxiety or if you know someone who struggles with it then what would you suggest?
How does one deal with this? How does one deal with someone who is afraid to go for help/won’t medicate/ is crippled to the point that they don’t know where to start dealing with this?
And why are some people more prone to this kind of stuff than others?
I feel really sad for this person as he has truly had the most horrible 2011.
The person that I’m referring to knows about this blog and chooses not to read it. Having said that, I do think that I will take this post down within the next day or so.