I mentioned in a recent blog post that I wanted to go to the ADHASA conference in Jhb. Things worked out beautifully and I have been BLESSED with accommodation AND sponsorship for the conference fee.
All that I would need to pay for is a flight and a car. I tried to book a flight three times last week and something kept happening. I basically have until the end of tomorrow to make this decision.
The conference happens this weekend on Saturday and Sunday. The issue that I have is that my FIL will most probably be buried at the latest on Friday morning. Not the end of the world and logistically not a big deal, but now I am wondering if I should go.
I spoke with my DH (I am prepared to NOT go and I won’t feel bad about it) and he insists that I should go because life does go on. He told me that he would be OK with the kids and that they would probably spend most of the weekend with his Mom and come home just to sleep. He asked me to please not feel guilty about it and that he understood and would never hold it against me.
I keep wondering how I would have felt if the roles were reversed. Would I be OK if I had just buried my Parent and now have a weekend alone with my kids? I really can’t say. I do know that I am sensible and reasonable and I suspect that I would probably have understood that it was necessary for my partner to go.
What would you do if you were in my situation? Would you stay with your partner and your kids or would you go?
I am planning to fly late on Friday in the afternoon/evening or possibly at the crack of dawn on Saturday which may be better, though it would mean missing about an hour of the conference.
Is it possibly to soon to leave them alone?