Recently I was clicking and clicking and clicking through blogs and I happened upon a post where this question (i.e. Would you marry YOU) was asked. Of course I was clever enough not to bookmark the post so I can’t link it here.
I figured that I would explore this question and to start off my research I made a pros and cons list.
Here are the PROS of being married to Julia:
She WILL take your needs into account. ALWAYS.
She WILL do little things to steal your heart.
She will ALWAYS use kind words. – well, at least when she’s not angry.
She’s very practical and obviously this is a useful skill to have when managing various personalities within the home.
She doesn’t freak out that easily – more often than not, she’s the calming presence. She usually freaks out once you are done freaking out. She’s kind enough to give you a chance to go first.
She works HARD for what she wants.
She is passionate about advocating for her kids and is mostly a lovely Mom to them.
Julia doesn’t shout.
Julia is A LOT of fun and you WILL enjoy her company. She’s your very best friend AND your lover AND your spouse and your partner and she KNOWS how to be impromptu and spontaneous and let her hair down. She will ALWAYS have your back.
Julia is REALLY good at encouraging people so you know that you will be married to your biggest fan.
Julia is extremely intuitive and will know what is going on before you even talk to her.
She has quality time and words of affirmation as her primary love languages followed very closely by physical touch as a secondary love language – she doesn’t mind not getting actual gifts so you can save LOTS of money – she’s not high maintenance.
CONS:
Julia is not that awesome at cooking if she’s rushed and uninspired and is subjected to whiny kids at night. So if good food is what you want, then you are going to have to make sure that she’s a kept woman. Otherwise it’s going to be spagbol and occasional minute steaks. Like very regularly.
Julia is not particularly big on entertaining and finds it exhausting to be with people for too long periods. She gets her energy from people but needs quite a bit of down time to recover from them. If you are a VERY social creature then you won’t cope with this.
Julia is a bit on the lazy side and will decide that she’s not going to do the dishes today. Or tomorrow. In fact, she will wait to see if you are waiting for her to do it. And then she’ll go NUTS because really, YOU could have done the dishes if it was bothering you already! Expect some tit-for-tat behaviour – she can be a bit immature ESPECIALLY when she’s PMS’ing.
And on that note, Julia is not a pleasant individual when she’s PMS’ing. She’s a hormonal mess so you might consider staying out of her face for a few days every month.
If Julia is stressed out, she takes a nap. She won’t talk until she’s good and ready. If talking is the way you deal with stressful situations, then you may have a problem.
If Julia is VERY angry (which hardly happens btw), then she becomes a bit immature. She swears and will call you names and slam doors and walk off. She doesn’t shout though so that’s a good thing. Right?
Julia is very good with everyone else’s money but appears to have struggles when dealing with hers. If you are not going to do the money stuff then you’d probably need to appoint an external party to manage household finances.
Julia is a complicated individual. She’s a thinker and a feeler and mostly makes heart-decisions as opposed to head-decisions. You don’t always know where you stand with her. You don’t always know what she’s thinking AND she’s a bit of an over thinker which will probably drive you nuts and make her seem high maintenance.
Julia is a serious procrastinator. You are in for a rough ride if you are a Type A personality. Also, she forgets to finish what she started.
As you can see, being married to Julia is probably a good thing. You could be really fulfilled.
However, those cons? I don’t think I would marry Julia. She’s a tad unpredictable for me and those love languages of hers, (even though they don’t cost money) are a lot of work.
So tell me. Based on my pros and cons could you be married to me?
Would YOU be married to YOU? Why or why not?
Ps..while I was writing this post earlier, I called my Boyfriend and asked him why exactly he got married to me. He couldn’t speak to me because he was busy but managed to tell me that it was the BEST decision he ever made and that he would absolutely make the same decision again and again and again, despite the fact that I am completely UN- AMAZING for about 5% of the time. See how well I’ve trained him? He KNOWS that he needs to use beautiful and affirming words.
pps…I am EXTREMELY thankful for my Boyfriend. He completely gets me and lets me be as crazy as I want to without stifling me or trying to box me. He’s one in a million because I honestly think that any other man would have left me by now!
