I am a control freak of sorts - I believe that we all are part control freak.
We all have things that we are particular about, things that we like done in a specific way. I think that this is fine. It’s normal. It’s OK. I can live with this as part of who I am and I can accept others who are like this.
However, you get control freaks and then you get CONTROL FREAKS. The one in capitals is the one that I can’t cope with. That’s the one who makes me want to run a mile.
That’s the one who causes my anxiety to spiral out of control.
That’s the one who practically harasses me to do things JUST SO.
That’s the one who doesn’t trust me to just get on with it.
That’s the one who can’t trust me to use my brain in situations that are unpredictable.
That’s the one who can’t trust me to use my judgement when I need to think quickly.
That’s the one who things will NEVER be good enough for.
That’s the one who is an EXTREME control freak.
I work with a person like that. It’s VERY unpleasant.
This person makes me doubt myself ALL THE TIME and in the process I lose confidence in my abilities.
I see a phone call from this person and I feel my heart beating out of my chest.
I see an email from this person and I have to take a few deep breaths and say a quick prayer before I open it.
I see this person walks towards me and I start to feel my stomach turn.
Perhaps I need to treat the person in a specific way? I believe that I am extremely accommodating towards ALL personalities. This particular personality I just cannot cope with. It is making me physically sick. I am not lazy and produce more than the required output. I make a serious effort to understand people. How they operate. Why the operate the way they do. Where their issues are really stemming from. Right now I am done doing this. Well, for this person anyway.
All I know is that this particular relationship doesn’t work for me and that I need to respect myself enough to walk away from it. I just wish it was as easy as that.
Are you an EXTREME control freak? Do you have an EXTREME control freak in your life?
How does one deal with the person who has a PhD in control-freakery as opposed to general person who possibly has a B-degree in it?