Remember last week when I felt so disillusioned about my sad baby boy?
Well, I’m happy to report that slowly but surely, the tide is turning.
I went to see his team last week – they explained what they were doing to help him to integrate and how they were managing his sensory stuff. I was happy with what they were doing and offered further suggestions for them to try within their environment. They also asked me to do certain things with him at home which I’ve been doing.
He now walks into school by himself (usually he bribes me and I give in! I have to draw a star and a smiley face on his wrist with the brightest red pen BEFORE he gets out of the car) and when he comes home he is a lot calmer.
Part of our new routine is to run a bath for him as soon as we step into the house. He must also crunch immediately. So he basically climbs in the bath and he can have an apple or carrots or a cracker or two before dinner. He quite literally eats while relaxing in his bath. He climbs in and comes out when he’s ready – sometimes after an hour. As soon as he’s out of the bath I give him a pressure massage. I was thinking today that we need to go back to brushing him in the evenings.
He’s also starting to warm up to his teacher and he now greets her! Previously he wasn’t interested and would walk right past her (I was mortified!) but then last week he had a small accident at school that required a plaster. Child2 LOVES plasters, so of course when Miss M cleaned his wound and applied a plaster she became his new BFF – he now talks about her often! I told her that I would send a bandage so that they could start moving onto hugs.
We have found that he DOES need his afternoon nap and not just quiet time like some of the other kids who attend aftercare. I wish he would nap for me on the weekends but anyway. We have also discovered that he needs more food during the day so I’ve been packing in bigger lunches and more snacks for him – he’s there for quite a long day.
Last week he had to do show and tell. I’ll be honest. I could NOT even picture it. Child2 does speak but he is not ready for show and tell. I tried to prepare him. It was a bit of a fail. I stopped because I didn’t want him to get anxious. I then wrote his teacher a note and told her that I tried. When I spoke to her last week she told me that he was fine! She directed, he managed just fine and he wasn’t afraid. Do you have ANY idea how that thrilled me! She told me that show and tell is very informal and if she at any point sees that he (or another child) is uncomfortable then she just won’t force the issue.
This past Monday he was excited for Show and Tell. Can you believe it? They had to bring their favourite book and he took his entire Dr Seuss collection. I did try to encourage him to take one book. It didn’t work and I wasn’t going to fight about it. I didn’t bother to prepare him. I figured he would be fine. And he was!
So I DO feel a lot better about him – he’s not sad anymore, he seems to be settling in and when I stop at the shop or the petrol station in the morning then he insists that we can’t do this because Miss M is waiting for him! Can you believe it?
How are your kids? Are they completely settled in at school now?
Ps…remember I said that I wasn’t going to let him do extra-murals because I can’t be paying for therapy AND extra-murals? Well. He REALLY wants to do swimming. He says “must swim on Fridays Mommy”. So it looks like I’m going to be caving on that. Which extra-murals are your kids doing?