My siblings and I are not friends. This makes my heart very, very sore.
We are not enemies and we are kind and civil towards one another. They love and adore my kids. I LOVE and adore their kids and I am the Aunty who LOVES to spoil them.
My siblings have just have never been able to cope with the weirdness and the oddness that is me.
They are great friends with one another. Just not with me. We are VERY different from one another.
When I am in trouble I know that I can call on them and they will help me out without hesitation. When my kids need things they will sort them out. BUT. There is no relationship. There is no friendship. I really would like there to be a friendship.
I would say that there is a fair bit of rivalry. And I will go as far as saying that we will probably become estranged once my parents die. Sad but true.
I have tried to reach out. It hasn’t worked. It’s never reciprocated. So I have stopped trying.
I am extremely envious of people who have great relationships with their siblings.
I don’t know how and where to start or rather continue with my own. So for now, I am giving up. Fact is, I do desire a friendship with them. It’s not happening. So I’ll just pray and hang in there so long.
Are you friends with your siblings? How do you nurture those relationships? Any idea how to build a relationship with a family member that doesn’t appear to be interested in building a relationship/friendship?
Btw….many people assume that if there is a small gap between siblings then there will be a close bond between them. I am living proof that this is not true. We don’t have significant age gaps between us. Also, my kids are 7 years apart in age. They have a GREAT relationship. I know that at some point Child1 will find his brother weird or whatever but I ALSO know that as adults they will be fantastic friends.