Goodness me but I was soooooo excited this morning!
Child2 and I had an actual , PROPER conversation.
Remember how I mentioned that he says some words and sentences but that we can’t have actual conversations or talk about anything abstract like “how was your day” or “what did you have for lunch yesterday” etc?
You know that he mostly talks AT me rather than TO me?
This doesn’t stop me or anything. I just keep talking and doing whatever I can to encourage conversation. Our ST gave me PLENTY of ideas on how to bring abstract into the “conversations” so I’ve been doing that – to be honest, I thought it was happening for nothing and I often feel stupid about it. Like I am wasting my time, but I just keep going because ST is one of those therapies where you don’t see results THAT quickly.
Anyway. This morning on the way to school I asked him if he wanted to sing. That’s our thing in the morning. We sing silly songs and say rhymes in the car! And I never have to invite him to do it. He usually just starts and expects us to join in.
So he says: “no want to sing”.
So I continued to drive and then we had this conversation:
Me: “Boy, you are so quiet this morning. Are you OK?”
Child2: “No Ju-la” (he says my name in 2 syllables and not 3 so Ju-la instead of Ju-li-a)
Me: “Oh dear. What’s the matter?”
Child2: “I tired”
So he closes his eyes and covers his face with his hands.
Me: “Must Mommy rather stop talking?”
Child2: “yes please”
Oh my goodness! I was THRILLED. Do you have ANY idea how big this is? We had an actual conversation about something NOT in front of him. Something abstract. He expressed his feelings. And he even set a boundary and said PLEASE without me having to prompt him! AND he didn’t refer to himself in the 3rd person! Isn’t he clever??
I could NOT stop smiling today. Even this evening when he said: “no want a pood” – he’s a great eater but has been eating VERY poorly these past few weeks. Do I need to worry? I’m trying not to make an issue out of it.
But seriously. Isn’t that just the most beautiful conversation ever? I absolutely CANNOT wait for the next one! I’m going to try REALLY hard not to force the issue and I will take my cues from him. Oh gosh, who am I kidding. I’m going to MAKE him talk about stuff that is not concrete and visible to us.
Ps. This morning my DH told me that he thinks that the technology is coming between us. I have NO IDEA where that came from(it was so out-of-the-blue) but he suggested that we have at least one technology-free evening a week. Starting tomorrow night.
Pps…My kids are sleeping out at MIL this weekend. There are no words to describe how happy I am to be getting a break from them. Sorry parenting police. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all of that.
Ppps…I know that I am late to this party but I have just discovered Brene Brown. I was listening to a TED talk that someone sent me and then I googled myself into a frenzy. I am thinking of getting a book!
Things in my home have been going MUCH better since I wrote this post. I made up a rotating chores list for everyone, I started batch cooking again and I do my reading at work so I can have my evenings free for computer. I also went to see Child1’s teacher to see how we could improve things in his life (we’ve been slowly implementing these changes) AND I went to the Aftercare to rattle them about homework not being done i.e. them not doing what I pay them to do which is supervise homework.
Anyway, that’s my Real-Life this Wednesday. How are you doing on this Hump Day? What is happening in your real-life on this beautiful Wednesday?