So I am no longer allowed to go online during work hours. Do you know how FRUSTRATING with a Capital F that is?
This basically means that I can’t bank, shop, send private emails, comment on the occasional blog or even just catch up on some news. Even during my lunch hour.
It’s like someone is putting a piece of cheesecake in front of me and telling me not to eat it. So much of cruelty!
NBL can see everyone’s computer screens from where she sits and is very nit-picky and nosey and gossipy and quite frankly just has terrible manners.
Essentially it means that I have to do everything that I would usually do during the day AT HOME in the evenings.
Which further means that I can’t find time to blog, read AND comment on my friends blogs. Which also means that my reading time gets pushed later. Which ALSO means that I go to bed A LOT later. Which means that I can’t function the next day because I’ve had 6 hours of sleep instead of 8. AND it means that I end up spending a few hours on my computer on the weekends which I so nicely stopped doing for a while. This in turn means that my family time and other things on the weekends get compromised. I just can’t win!
I feel completely cut off from the world during the day. So I go on my phone. And then I get stared at. If I didn’t know better, I would be convinced that someone smaaks me with a passion.
But anyway. This is what my evening used to look like before NBL came into my life – it took A LOT of experimenting and refining and organising and planning to get it to work this perfectly:
18:00 – arrive home
18:10 – 19:30 – cook, tidy up, check homework diaries, sign all circulars, homework check and possible assistance, prep for the next day, get kids bathed and into bed.
19:30 – 20:30 - computer time! I used this time to tie up any admin that I couldn’t do during the day, blog, reply to comments on my blog, read blogs, comment on blogs, clean up GR, pin, FB, tweet. Amazingly I got A LOT done during this hour because I KNEW had to be VERY intentional because of the fact that I only had one hour in which to finish everything.
20:30 – 21:30 – hang out with Rose and prior to Rose coming into my life, an actual paper book.
21:35 – Lights out so that I can feel OK when I rise at 05:30am.
This is what my life currently looks like in the evenings::
17:45 – arrive home.
18:00 – 21:00 – cook, tidy up (this has been taking longer lately because I’ve been neglecting a lot of things during winter), check homework diaries (that is IF the diary comes home. Sometimes it doesn’t come home and then I end up fighting with Child1 which can take anything up to 20 minutes – his attitude is driving me NUTS!), sign circulars, homework check and assistance (apparently he remembers stuff that he wrote in his diary), school projects (there have been PLENTY of these in these past few weeks and they have been VERY labour intensive), assist Child1 with studying and testing for assessments (this has taken two weeks of my time and no, he has ADHD and can’t manage it on his own OR with friends. If I want this then it would mean medicating him in the evenings which causes further complications because it means that he won’t sleep at night), prep for the next day, get kids bathed and fed (this has been a struggle lately because Child2 is a freaking nightmare when it comes to settling down). Have I mentioned that my DH is too tired to help me? I’m done talking about it and asking for help. Really.
21:15 – THIS is when I first switch on my computer. By then I am completely knackered so if I’m lucky I might manage a blog post. I don’t manage to reply to comments on my posts and this frustrates me TREMENDOUSLY because I really like doing this. And I might do some admin that I MUST do. I am too exhausted at this stage to read blogs, comment on blogs, to clear out my GR. But I do what I can and then end up in bed around 23:00 which is WAY too late. And I end up not doing any reading which makes me unhappy.
AND the next day I feel like I have a hangover because of the fact that I didn’t get enough sleep.
So. I have thought about this:
I can push my bedtime to after 21:30 - maybe by 2 hours, which would effectively mean that I am a dead person walking the next day.
OR I can also stick to my reading and bedtime schedule and not go on my computer at all and then spend approximately 6-8 hours on the weekend catching up on emails (I have about 57 unread at the moment because I don’t get time to go through everything in the evening). I also have about 188 unread blog posts in GR. Which I’m not getting to. But then I would feel even MORE isolated than I feel now.
The other alternative would be to get a tablet or something and go and sit in the Wimpy during lunch hour so I can get free WIFI. BUT this is a COSTLY exercise and I can’t truly say that I’m a Tablet kind of girl.
So. Decisions, decisions, decisions.
What would you do? Push out bedtime? Skip all computer time during the week? Get a tablet?
Anything else maybe?
At this stage I’m feeling the need to clone myself. Sigh.