Do you watch Greys Anatomy? If you do, then you will be familiar with the characters who I refer to in this post. If you don’t, then google Meredith Grey and Christina Yang friendship and quotes!
I have loved watching the friendship between these two characters develop over the years – I think it’s fair to say that this is one of the BEST and MOST BEAUTIFUL TV friendships I have ever seen.
I love the emotional intimacy between these two.
I love that there are ZERO filters.
I love that there is ZERO judgement – only support – even if they don’t agree with one another’s choices.
I love that they really do have so much fun together!
I love that I am a bit like each one of them. I am sarcastic and snippy like Christina and occasionally very clinical about my approach to things, yet intuitive and sensitive and someone who walks around with her heart on her sleeve. Just like Meredith. I don’t know about you but I guess I also have a dark and twisty side to me.
One of my all-time favourite scenes between these two happens in season 7 where Christina is suffering from PTSD and can’t sleep at night when she’s home alone. She goes to her friend, her soul mate, her Mer.
She lets herself into their house and walks into their bedroom. Meredith wakes up, Christina hesitates and turns around to leave. Meredith calls her back and invites her (i.e. Christina) into her bed so she doesn’t have to sleep alone. Christina crawls in and there are three in the bed – Derrick (Meredith’s husband), Meredith and Christina. There was just something so very special about that scene for me. And I LOVE that Derrick has so much respect for that friendship and sees how important THAT particular friendship is to his wife. I LOVE that both spouses understand the importance of the friendship between their wives.
This past week I was watching some of Season 7 (or was it 8) and in the one storyline Christina is pregnant. She doesn’t want kids and makes a decision to terminate the pregnancy. I LOVE that she doesn’t even wonder whether Meredith will be there to support her. She just knows (and has absolutely no doubt) that her friend will be there for her and NOT judge her decision.
She says to Meredith…”you’re my person”. She says these words in other scenes in the series too and those three words never fail to have an impact on me.
Because honestly. Do you realise what a LOADED statement that is? She would literally give her entire life for her friend.
I love my friends very, very much but have never been able to say that to any of them. I would probably be able to do this for my DH but I honestly can’t say that I would do this for a friend.
There are many, many beautiful scenes between these two (very different) characters that I can refer to but then this post would get too long.
This past week I have wondered a lot about the dynamics of TV friendships – specifically the Meredith and Christina friendship and the SATC friendship between Charlotte, Carrie, Miranda and Samantha.
On the one hand I LOVE watching TV friendships develop and grow. I love that there is something that can be “aspired” to – for lack of a better word. I love that there is a “picture” of what I can’t put into words about what I need/want/desire in a friendship.
On the other hand I wonder just how realistic it is to expect this type of friendship in real life. Are there truly friendships like this out there? Is this why I struggle with this subject? IS it because I have unrealistic (fictional TV) expectations?
Is there anyone (besides your spouse/partner) that you can truly call your “person?” I think that I have a few “persons” for different things. Which I really am OK with.
What is your favourite TV friendship to watch? Do you think that aspiring to those types of friendships is unrealistic?
I thought that I would end this post with the words to the theme song of The Golden Girls – I think that this was probably the first TV (adult) friendship that ever made an impact on me. You can listen to it here because I can’t seem to load the clip.
Thank you for being a friend
Travelled down the road and back again
Your heart is true you’re a pal and a confidant.
And if you threw a party
Invited everyone you knew
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say “ thank you for being a friend.”
Oh I love that little song from Golden girls. I have had two very deep friendships with girlfriends where we grew very close and shared a lot but I am not sure I would ever be able to say those 3 words to anyone but my hubby. Because he is my person.
I HAVE to agree with that. Much as I love my girls, I ONLY have one person – my DH.
Seriously! Seriously!! Seriously!!!
Can you tell that I have watched a lot of Grey’s Anatomy
Can’t wait for season 9 to start
It’s an amazing friendship though I’m not sure if such a relationship exists between friends in real life. Imagine your hubby waking up and your friend is in bed with you two
In reality, I think if my friend comes to my house, we will either both ‘crash’ in the guest room or living room.
Like you I have different ‘person ‘ for different things and different aspects of my life (hmmm does that not make me sound like I have multiple personality)
Seriously (in honour of Grey’s) aside from my hubby I’m not sure if I can call any body my person without reservations.
If I say I loved Golden girls would I be giving my age away
Seriously!! LOL. I have just started on season 8 (I think). And I do NOT think that my hubby will be impressed AT ALL. And I LOVED Golden Girls. That theme song was in my head all day long! That’s why I just HAD to post it.
I love TV friendships – Dawsons Creek is also a big favourite of mine because it also crosses the gender lines and shows that it is possible (at least on TV) to have guys (who aren’t gay) as close friends.
But like you said I don’t know how possible it is – in my circle of friends I don’t know of anyone who has a person who has been there through thick and thin! BUT David has a friend like that – Jack’s godfather. I am in awe of this friendship to be honest. They have know each other since they were like 13 and Guy would do anything for David and has and David would do the same. Their friendship really is a Christina/Meredith thing!!!
My brother also has a friends like this – makes me wonder if boys are better friends than girls
i think tv friendships are mostly idealistic but that’s okay if that’s what you realise it to be. i have the \’you’re my person” with lots of people but in pockets. for x topic it’s x person, for y topic, another, etc.
and i think that’s okay, even healthy.\\yes, overall \\d is my person for everything on earth and of course God is the real person who really does get everything.
have a great weekend – just been to the gym so i feel all virtuous!
I really love watching shows that have strong friendships in them and i have also thought ‘Is this friendship attainable?’
Saying that i have had ‘a person’ in my life – and probably (if i was still in the same country) i still would have. We still are very close, but people need ‘face-to-face’ time.
But after having this level of friendship i do find it hard to make new friends because i measure them against this one, and obviously its not the same.
I am really trying to connect to people – but sometimes it really gets to me.
Anyway…. on ward and upward! x
I have at times felt that I have that “you’re my person” kind of friendship with someone…and at the time I did I suppose. What usually simmers it down to a normal kind of friendship is where life kind of nudges you into corners where you don’t get to spend so much time with that person as before. To be that person takes daily contact as far as i can tell. I bet if Meredith and Christina wheren’t working in the same hospital it would change the intensity of that friendship too.
I love watching this show – also cos I love the dynamic between Mer and Christina. I do however believe that this friendship is not 100% realistic. It is a great ideal to want to live up to, but lets be real now. Both husbands don’t even roll their eyes when the girls are being each other’s person? They are totally 100% understanding 100% of the time? Not realistic. Also Meredith was battling to fall pregnant after a miscarriage. She *couldn’t* have been SO understanding of Christina’s abortion, no matter how much she loves her. It’s just not “real”.
I have surrounded myself with great friends, but I can honestly say that DH is my person. And my friend from school years who lives in Dubai. We’ve been close friends for 22 years, we see each other perhaps once a year but it’s like we’ve not skipped day when we meet. She just gets me. I get her. In fact I saw her this weekend and her daughter (5) asked me if we were sisters. I asked her why she thought that and her answer was this “cos I can see how much you and mommy love each other and only sisters love each other like that”.
Here’s to friendship!
xxx
My friend Lizana knows that she’s my person and I know that I’m hers. Partners will come and go in our lives, but our strongest bond will always be with one another. I suppose that’s not the norm in our society, but that is our reality. And yes, I don’t have many other friends because nothing compares to this friendship.
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I have enjoyed reading your blog as my friend and I use this quote all the time with each other. I especially got very sentimental reading the lyrics to the Golden Girls song. It brought back some warm memories.