Do you watch Greys Anatomy? If you do, then you will be familiar with the characters who I refer to in this post. If you don’t, then google Meredith Grey and Christina Yang friendship and quotes!
I have loved watching the friendship between these two characters develop over the years – I think it’s fair to say that this is one of the BEST and MOST BEAUTIFUL TV friendships I have ever seen.
I love the emotional intimacy between these two.
I love that there are ZERO filters.
I love that there is ZERO judgement – only support – even if they don’t agree with one another’s choices.
I love that they really do have so much fun together!
I love that I am a bit like each one of them. I am sarcastic and snippy like Christina and occasionally very clinical about my approach to things, yet intuitive and sensitive and someone who walks around with her heart on her sleeve. Just like Meredith. I don’t know about you but I guess I also have a dark and twisty side to me.
One of my all-time favourite scenes between these two happens in season 7 where Christina is suffering from PTSD and can’t sleep at night when she’s home alone. She goes to her friend, her soul mate, her Mer.
She lets herself into their house and walks into their bedroom. Meredith wakes up, Christina hesitates and turns around to leave. Meredith calls her back and invites her (i.e. Christina) into her bed so she doesn’t have to sleep alone. Christina crawls in and there are three in the bed – Derrick (Meredith’s husband), Meredith and Christina. There was just something so very special about that scene for me. And I LOVE that Derrick has so much respect for that friendship and sees how important THAT particular friendship is to his wife. I LOVE that both spouses understand the importance of the friendship between their wives.
This past week I was watching some of Season 7 (or was it 8) and in the one storyline Christina is pregnant. She doesn’t want kids and makes a decision to terminate the pregnancy. I LOVE that she doesn’t even wonder whether Meredith will be there to support her. She just knows (and has absolutely no doubt) that her friend will be there for her and NOT judge her decision.
She says to Meredith…”you’re my person”. She says these words in other scenes in the series too and those three words never fail to have an impact on me.
Because honestly. Do you realise what a LOADED statement that is? She would literally give her entire life for her friend.
I love my friends very, very much but have never been able to say that to any of them. I would probably be able to do this for my DH but I honestly can’t say that I would do this for a friend.
There are many, many beautiful scenes between these two (very different) characters that I can refer to but then this post would get too long.
This past week I have wondered a lot about the dynamics of TV friendships – specifically the Meredith and Christina friendship and the SATC friendship between Charlotte, Carrie, Miranda and Samantha.
On the one hand I LOVE watching TV friendships develop and grow. I love that there is something that can be “aspired” to – for lack of a better word. I love that there is a “picture” of what I can’t put into words about what I need/want/desire in a friendship.
On the other hand I wonder just how realistic it is to expect this type of friendship in real life. Are there truly friendships like this out there? Is this why I struggle with this subject? IS it because I have unrealistic (fictional TV) expectations?
Is there anyone (besides your spouse/partner) that you can truly call your “person?” I think that I have a few “persons” for different things. Which I really am OK with.
What is your favourite TV friendship to watch? Do you think that aspiring to those types of friendships is unrealistic?
I thought that I would end this post with the words to the theme song of The Golden Girls – I think that this was probably the first TV (adult) friendship that ever made an impact on me. You can listen to it here because I can’t seem to load the clip.
Thank you for being a friend
Travelled down the road and back again
Your heart is true you’re a pal and a confidant.
And if you threw a party
Invited everyone you knew
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say “ thank you for being a friend.”