…..we went for a quiet dinner for my DH’s birthday on Friday evening. He enjoyed his day even though he was feeling a bit sad.
Yesterday it STORMED in Cape Town. The roads were wet and atrocious and I ended up cancelling my knitting tweetup because even though I don’t mind going out in rain, I just wasn’t keen to drive so far (all the way to Melkbos) in that weather. Sjoe. I haven’t seen so much rain in a long, long time. It was divine though and so full of drama! My DH and I ended up dropping the kids at MIL and going out for some Thai food close to home. Was awesome to have an impromptu date.
I read a lot.
Had some wine.
Ate too much carrot cake.
Cleaned my house. Again. Gosh, my kids are so messy!
Today was the first anniversary of my FIL’s passing. My DH didn’t cope too well and was extremely sad. My in-laws ended up coming around to have lunch with us. We reminisced a bit, looked at old pics, laughed and cried a bit and generally just loved one another the way we needed to. It was a really good and healing afternoon. The first year after losing someone is just horrible horrible horrible. Every single thing reminds you of them and all these special dates that the person was always a part of end up passing by. There is such an obvious gap in your life, and even though one tries to create different memories without the person, it’s still exceptionally painful. I really hope that it will get easier.
This week I have to finish knitting a scarf, which means that my reading will need to take a back seat, I have to catch up with A LOT of admin that I’ve been neglecting because of going to bed straight after dinner with Rose and the kids, and I also need to get Child2’s stuff sorted for the new school.
How was your weekend and what are you looking forward to this week?
Very sad that your FIL’s passing is so close to your hubbie’s b’day! I’m sure it will always bring sad memories for him.
xxx
Ai, yes, it is so tough. But I do think you all made the best of the day – remembering him together.
Shame man
my ex’s mom died the day before his birthday (which was Christmas day) – wasnt nice at all.
Our weekend was good – got rid of a garage full of rubbish and moved our house around a bit – made space for my LARGE square table to use for crafting
I am SOOOOO happy!
The first year is always the hardest. You’ll find that as the time passes, it”ll be easier for hubby to deal with his Dad’s passing and in time he’ll think of him and remember him with hardly any sadness in his heart. He WILL NOT always feel sadness at this time. Time truly does heal all ails.
xxx