Why? Why? Why?
Gosh. This can be such a loaded question sometimes. I was reading Sharon’s post earlier and it made my heart so very sore. It also made me think about where I am at with the “WHY” business.
I have actually reached the point where I no longer ask WHY. Mainly because the stuff that I usually question simply can’t be answered by mere mortals.
I find that asking WHY just causes me more anguish and pain and distress and sadness – not good for someone suffering from Depression.
I find that asking WHY just reminds me that there are things that cannot be controlled – things that I am not in control of – not good for someone who is part control freak.
Asking WHY often feels pointless – not good for someone who totally believes that there is a solution to every problem.
Asking WHY sometimes causes my mind to go into overdrive. I drive myself batty with the possibilities of WHY. This doesn’t help me at all – just makes it so much worse.
So I ride the wave and wait for it to pass. Because eventually it does pass. Not necessarily as quickly as I would like but, it does pass.
This is what I have learnt in the last few years:
Some things simply don’t have an answer.
Bad things happen to good people and no, I can’t fathom that. Not yet anyway. It still makes me VERY ANGRY.
Life is hard and beautiful and easy and crap. Sometimes all at the same time. Depending on how you look at it this can be a good thing. Balance and all that.
Sadness/difficulties come in waves. Everyone gets a chance to experience hard times. Just like everyone gets a chance to experience good times.
People deal with loss/difficulties differently.
The bad times can either make you or break you.
This too shall pass and eventually you do come out on the other side – not necessarily in the way that you expect to. Again, this can be a wonderful learning experience, depending on how you choose to look at it.
Hope is NEVER overrated.
God is Faithful - not something I ever thought I would put on a blog post. How things change…
How do you deal with the WHY thing? What have you learnt about the WHY in the last while or in recent years?
You’re asking hard questions for a Thursday night
Seriously, God is the reason I get through the hard times. Even now while things are not as great as I’d like, I do know (intellectually) that this will all be okay.
I know beyond a shadow of doubt that He is ALWAYS faithful. Always. He’s proven it to me so many times in the past. I could talk to you for hours just on this topic.
Was about to send you mail to say I’m thinking of all of you tomorrow morning – hope you are all surrounded by God’s peace… and love.
Chat soon, my friend!
And btw, I think I might have the slightest glimmer of what to do with the bizness – two things happened tonight (nothing big, just knowings – I’m sounding very woo-woo) and I’m having very slight clarity (like a tiny candle at the end of the tunnel)
Anyone who knows me, knows that I am always chanting “This too shall Pass”……I was also very sad at Sharons post….and I went home to my B and I was telling him that I too questioned the “Why?” which made me angry inside because I know that God is not to blame, I then started getting real “technical” and decided that all our problems are because of MAN (smile). Adam and EVe sinned but woman was to bear the pain of childbirth….and even today a infertile bears the pain of the womb….so that is my story and I am sticking to it…smile
I love your story. And you are right, God is not to blame.x
I find that through hard times I actually draw closer to God. He is really the anchor that holds me firmly in place.
xx
I have learned that our sorrow is as important as our joy. The deeper sorrow cleaves into us, the more joy we can contain. It’s all part of life. It’s not an easy lesson to learn though.
It is one of the hardest lessons of all. And you know what? It is one that I am learning over and over. Doesn’t make it any easier.x