Recently, some people (at work) have complimented me on my weight loss.
This never fails to thrill me as it means that it is finally visible and a girl needs all the encouragement that she can get to keep going. Also, one of my primary love languages is words of affirmation and so compliments and singing my praises are obviously right up my alley.
I have noticed one thing though.
I don’t know if I am just being oversensitive but when some people(and it’s only the women at work btw) compliment me then it starts off well and ends off badly.
For example, one woman said to me yesterday: “you are getting so nice and thin – don’t fade away now” and another said: “that jeans looks really good on you BUT you need to wear a brighter top”. It’s not as if we even have the kind of relationship where it’s ok for her to say that to me. We are not exactly BFFs or anything.
This morning another woman said “your hips are getting smaller but if you lose any more weight then you will also lose weight in your face and it won’t look so nice”.
I told her that I am touched by her concern for my not-yet thin face but that I did actually prefer it that way. I could not help myself and she didn’t even realise that I was being sarcastic!
Seriously. I would NEVER dream of doing this. I find it easy to genuinely compliment people and mean it and I have absolutely no issues leaving snide remarks out of it.
Is this possibly a jealousy thing? Is it just more proof that women really are their own worst enemies?
Whatever happened to just complimenting someone and leaving it at that? Whatever happened to actually being genuine when praising and complimenting someone?
Why does there always have to be a “BUT” when some people compliment you?