Recently, some people (at work) have complimented me on my weight loss.
This never fails to thrill me as it means that it is finally visible and a girl needs all the encouragement that she can get to keep going. Also, one of my primary love languages is words of affirmation and so compliments and singing my praises are obviously right up my alley.
I have noticed one thing though.
I don’t know if I am just being oversensitive but when some people(and it’s only the women at work btw) compliment me then it starts off well and ends off badly.
For example, one woman said to me yesterday: “you are getting so nice and thin – don’t fade away now” and another said: “that jeans looks really good on you BUT you need to wear a brighter top”. It’s not as if we even have the kind of relationship where it’s ok for her to say that to me. We are not exactly BFFs or anything.
This morning another woman said “your hips are getting smaller but if you lose any more weight then you will also lose weight in your face and it won’t look so nice”.
I told her that I am touched by her concern for my not-yet thin face but that I did actually prefer it that way. I could not help myself and she didn’t even realise that I was being sarcastic!
Seriously. I would NEVER dream of doing this. I find it easy to genuinely compliment people and mean it and I have absolutely no issues leaving snide remarks out of it.
Is this possibly a jealousy thing? Is it just more proof that women really are their own worst enemies?
Whatever happened to just complimenting someone and leaving it at that? Whatever happened to actually being genuine when praising and complimenting someone?
Why does there always have to be a “BUT” when some people compliment you?
LOL it’s a girl thing!
A jealous girl thing!
I say outright, “thanks, I THINK?” or “what on EARTH is that supposed to mean?” and then they get embarrassed which is RIGHT! Because they are rude!!!
Now please put some pics of your thin booty on the blog and we’ll all say nice things, okay?
hmmm..Maybe I should put some pics up. And yes, they are RUDE.
Jealous cows. That’s all.
True that.
I’m with the above two comments. Seriously its a girl thing and its such a negative trait we have. Jealousy is such an ugly thing. Just keep up the good work and smile to yourself when they come out with a “but” compliment – you’ve won from the moment they start to say “but”…
Hey, thanks for visiting and thanks for your lovely comment. I guess it is a jealousy thing. And a RUDENESS thing too. Will definitely ignore them and remember that I have won from the moment that they start to say “but”…
Its human nature. We want to be happy for peoples success BUT we also sometimes are bitten by the green eyed monster!
Sjoe, women can be SO blimming bitchy.
I am sure you are looking fabulous and there is no BUTS;-)
Thank You.xx
Jealousy, that’s all.
Use the compliment and ditch the rest.
Green eye monsters those women are
Shayne here btw – logged into my dh’s pc
That’s exactly what I plan to do. Just hear the compliment and nothing else.
I don’t get it either!